All of us get angry, and some of us get angry more often than others. We usually blame it on other people's behavior or the situation. But is it truly so? Let's see how we get angry.
Just reflect on who we get angry with! Most of the times we get angry with someone younger to us in age like our children or siblings, or someone working for us like our helpers, employees, etc. What about our boss or seniors in the office, or elders at home? We usually don't get angry at them or rather, I should say, we can't afford to get angry with them, otherwise consequences will be serious. So even though we may be unhappy with them, we repress our feelings. Same goes with strangers-- our irritation or frustration with strangers is for much shorter than with known people. So it looks like that the closer we are to a person, more angry we tend to get with that person. That may also explain why at times we 'explode' at our parents than our teachers-- we take them for granted, but are afraid of the teachers.
So next time when you get angry, don't say that it just happened, and you couldn't control it. It is actually in our hands to get angry or not, with somebody. Of course, it is very difficult to control our anger, or minimize it. But if we become aware of our responses, and act after considering all the consequences of our actions, then incidences of outbursts will surely reduce.
Just reflect on who we get angry with! Most of the times we get angry with someone younger to us in age like our children or siblings, or someone working for us like our helpers, employees, etc. What about our boss or seniors in the office, or elders at home? We usually don't get angry at them or rather, I should say, we can't afford to get angry with them, otherwise consequences will be serious. So even though we may be unhappy with them, we repress our feelings. Same goes with strangers-- our irritation or frustration with strangers is for much shorter than with known people. So it looks like that the closer we are to a person, more angry we tend to get with that person. That may also explain why at times we 'explode' at our parents than our teachers-- we take them for granted, but are afraid of the teachers.
So next time when you get angry, don't say that it just happened, and you couldn't control it. It is actually in our hands to get angry or not, with somebody. Of course, it is very difficult to control our anger, or minimize it. But if we become aware of our responses, and act after considering all the consequences of our actions, then incidences of outbursts will surely reduce.
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